“Dear Ms Tarot Reader, I met this guy a couple months ago and he is really sweet. We get on so well and I’m sure we are an item. One thing puzzles me, though, he never takes me home to meet his mom, and the only time I meet his friends is if we bump into them by chance. What’s going on?”
Hi there, Romance-Seeker, I’m sorry to hear you are puzzled by your man’s behavior. Let me draw a card or two to see if the tarot can shed some light.
The Ten of Pentacles and the Five of Cups
Well, it’s plain to see from these cards that you are being stashed. Let me guess… he comes to your family home and hangs out with your friends, huh? Your family make him welcome and he helped your pa mend his old car last weekend? But, you’ve never been to his mom’s or met his brother? You weren’t invited to his sister’s engagement party or
Sweetheart, you gotta know, he’s not that into you. You have been stashed. That means you are his casual fling, but you aren’t really the kind of girl he would take home to meet his mama. You’re on the outside looking in. Your family ain’t rich enough, your pedigree isn’t long enough, your education isn’t good enough, and frankly my dear, you drink a tad too much and dress… well let’s say, a little trashy.
This dog will never stay at your side. Let him go and find yourself someone worthy of your love.
“Dear Ms Tarot Reader, I went out with a girl three times last month. We got on really well. She was funny and flirty, and real classy. She was very keen on hearing about my cat and my exotic fish. We even kissed goodnight. The next day I sent her a text with a love-heart-flower-faced emoji and all. It took her all day to answer but eventually she did. She didn’t mention another date, even though I suggested it. Then I didn’t hear from her for a week. I was about to give up on her when she sent another text out of the blue. I hafta say, my heart started pounding when I read her msg. It was very suggestive, iykwim? I replied to her and then again, not a word for days and days. What is happening? She’s killin’ me.
Hey there, Love Rocket, let’s see what the cards have to say.
The Nine of Pentacles and the King of Cups
Oh dear, I’m sorry to say that you have been relegated to the bench. She’s put you on hold, left you on the back burner and taken advantage of your good nature. She’ll expect you to come running any time she wants to, but you aren’t her top priority, far from it. She’s waiting for her Mr Right to come along, but she’s in no hurry. Meanwhile she’s put you on the reserves’ list. You’ve been benched.
What can you do? Well, you could ask her straight out. She won’t tell you the truth. She’ll say she’s busy, she lost her phone, her best friend needs her more right now. She’ll tell you she’s under pressure at work, though she clearly isn’t. Life is going great for her, but you, my friend aren’t a major part of it.
Dear Ms Tarot Reader,
I really like this guy. I mean, I think I love him. I am convinced that he truly loves me too. We went out once and it was so much fun, we went for a drink and for a meal, and it was okay that he forgot to bring his wallet, I always carry enough with me, just in case. And I didn’t mind that he spent a lot of time on his phone – he’s obviously busy and important. The problem is… well he must have problems. I only get texts from him once a week, sometimes less. He’s so friendly in his msgs, always adds a heart and last week a unicorn. I know he wants to be with me, but can’t. Please help, how can we be together? I mean, I love my cat and salamander, but I need a man too.
I’m shuffling my tarot cards for you right now. Oh dear… it’s the Page of Wands, just what I suspected. You are being ‘breadcrumbed’. He’s leaving a little trail for you to follow. Your curiosity is aroused just enough to keep following the path. I hate to tell you this, ACMP, but there’s no future in this.
Either he’s keeping you ‘on the bench’ (see my reply to Love Rocket earlier), he’s married, or he’s using you to stoke his ego, or very likely, all three. Let me guess, you always reply as soon as you hear from him, yes? He loves it. He enjoys keeping you interested. He knows you won’t see anyone else while he has this hold over you. It’s just a game to him. Delete him from your contact list, block his number and go and have some fun with your girlfriends. No? Why am I not surprised?
Tarot deck used for illustration “Everyday Witch Tarot” by Deborah Blake and Elizabeth Alba, published by Llewellyn.