Stashed, Benched and Thrown a Few Breadcrumbs

Dear Ms Tarot Reader, I met this guy a couple months ago and he is really sweet. We get on so well and I’m sure we are an item. One thing puzzles me, though, he never takes me home to meet his mom, and the only time I meet his friends is if we bump into them by chance. What’s going on?

Hi there, Romance-Seeker, I’m sorry to hear you are puzzled by your man’s behavior. Let me draw a card or two to see if the tarot can shed some light.

Ten of Pentacles and Five of Cups stashed

The Ten of Pentacles and the Five of Cups

Well, it’s plain to see from these cards that you are being stashed. Let me guess… he comes to your family home and hangs out with your friends, huh? Your family make him welcome and he helped your pa mend his old car last weekend? But, you’ve never been to his mom’s or met his brother? You weren’t invited to his sister’s engagement party or

Sweetheart, you gotta know, he’s not that into you. You have been stashed. That means you are his casual fling, but you aren’t really the kind of girl he would take home to meet his mama. You’re on the outside looking in. Your family ain’t rich enough, your pedigree isn’t long enough, your education isn’t good enough, and frankly my dear, you drink a tad too much and dress… well let’s say, a little trashy.

This dog will never stay at your side. Let him go and find yourself someone worthy of your love.

Dear Ms Tarot Reader, I went out with a girl three times last month. We got on really well. She was funny and flirty, and real classy. She was very keen on hearing about my cat and my exotic fish. We even kissed goodnight. The next day I sent her a text with a love-heart-flower-faced emoji and all. It took her all day to answer but eventually she did. She didn’t mention another date, even though I suggested it. Then I didn’t hear from her for a week. I was about to give up on her when she sent another text out of the blue. I hafta say, my heart started pounding when I read her msg. It was very suggestive, iykwim? I replied to her and then again, not a word for days and days. What is happening? She’s killin’ me.

Hey there, Love Rocket, let’s see what the cards have to say.

Nine of Pentacles King of Cups stashed and benched

The Nine of Pentacles and the King of Cups

Oh dear, I’m sorry to say that you have been relegated to the bench. She’s put you on hold, left you on the back burner and taken advantage of your good nature. She’ll expect you to come running any time she wants to, but you aren’t her top priority, far from it. She’s waiting for her Mr Right to come along, but she’s in no hurry. Meanwhile she’s put you on the reserves’ list. You’ve been benched.

What can you do? Well, you could ask her straight out. She won’t tell you the truth. She’ll say she’s busy, she lost her phone, her best friend needs her more right now. She’ll tell you she’s under pressure at work, though she clearly isn’t. Life is going great for her, but you, my friend aren’t a major part of it.

Dear Ms Tarot Reader,

I really like this guy. I mean, I think I love him. I am convinced that he truly loves me too. We went out once and it was so much fun, we went for a drink and for a meal, and it was okay that he forgot to bring his wallet, I always carry enough with me, just in case. And I didn’t mind that he spent a lot of time on his phone – he’s obviously busy and important. The problem is… well he must have problems. I only get texts from him once a week, sometimes less. He’s so friendly in his msgs, always adds a heart and last week a unicorn. I know he wants to be with me, but can’t. Please help, how can we be together? I mean, I love my cat and salamander, but I need a man too.

Hello Always-Checking-My-Phone,

Page of Wands Stashed, Benched and Breadcrumbed

I’m shuffling my tarot cards for you right now. Oh dear… it’s the Page of Wands, just what I suspected. You are being ‘breadcrumbed’. He’s leaving a little trail for you to follow. Your curiosity is aroused just enough to keep following the path. I hate to tell you this, ACMP, but there’s no future in this.

Either he’s keeping you ‘on the bench’ (see my reply to Love Rocket earlier), he’s married, or he’s using you to stoke his ego, or very likely, all three. Let me guess, you always reply as soon as you hear from him, yes? He loves it. He enjoys keeping you interested. He knows you won’t see anyone else while he has this hold over you. It’s just a game to him. Delete him from your contact list, block his number and go and have some fun with your girlfriends. No? Why am I not surprised?

Tarot deck used for illustration “Everyday Witch Tarot” by Deborah Blake and Elizabeth Alba, published by Llewellyn.

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6 thoughts on “Stashed, Benched and Thrown a Few Breadcrumbs

  1. Wes

    Hello Troi,

    I found your WordPress site and had been enjoying reading it, but I’m am now starting not to after reading some of what you wrote. For example, on this page where I am leaving this comment, in the first reading you say (about a man) that dog won’t stay by your side. Men are not dogs. In the other readings on the same page you do not say anything to disparage the woman who is keeping the man on a string. Another example is from your Hubpages where in the article about the Knight of Swords you say …’then you may be able to ignore his pernickety-ness or train him out of it’. Men are not some sort of pet (such as a dog) to be ‘trained’. A man is a man just as a woman is a woman. I find these words which you have used to be sexist and insulting towards men. I have not read on further after encountering this. Is this attitude towards men going to repeated in your other articles? Please let me know so I do not have to read more only to have my gender disparaged.

    Thank you

    Wes

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    1. Troi Post author

      Hello Wes,

      I think if you read through the article again, you’ll will see that I have been pretty even-handed towards both men and women. Please remember that these are made-up situations.

      I’m sure that my ‘attitude’ is repeated in a lot of my other articles, so best avoid them lest you are offended.

      Thank you for reading as far as you did.

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      1. Wes

        I read it very carefully the first time, and more than once, and in this article I did not find you to be ‘even-handed’. If you were I would not have posted. I guess you do not care about correcting it, so I’m out.

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        1. Troi Post author

          So… you didn’t get the reference to the dog in the Ten of Pentacles? And maybe the girl in the Five of Cups is not classy enough for the family in the Ten? Or notice the implication that the woman is lying in the second example?

          The whole article is about the cards. And, no, of course I’m not going to ‘correct’ it just to soothe your sensibilities. It doesn’t need correcting. Go read any chick-lit novel and you’ll read far more disparaging material.

          I’m afraid that if such trivial examples offend you, life will be tough for you in the future. Most of us have far more important issues to worry about.

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  2. Jade

    Hello Ms Tarot Reader, I have been with my boyfriend almost 6 months, and I am curious to see a prediction on how we will turn out. I believe I am in love with him and he is so sweet… my parents like him and his like mine, we get along so well. Even our signs are the best compatibility, Taurus and Cancer. How will we turn out? How long will we last?
    -helplessly in love

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    1. Troi Post author

      Dear Helplessly in Love,

      I have drawn the Four of Wands from the Every Day Witch Tarot. Four young witches are celebrating with their cat-familiars. In the distance we can see a marquee and a church tower. It is clear that something joyous has occurred. Perhaps two families have joined together?

      The tarot tells you, HiL, that there is a future in your relationship, and it definitely has a chance to last forever – or for as long as you both want it to. The Four of Wands is about peace, stability and celebration. That doesn’t mean there won’t be hard work involved, but, for now, you have good cause to enjoy what you have. Long may it last.

      All the best

      Ms Tarot Reader xx

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